I’ve never been one for making devoted resolutions as each year comes to a close. To me, many of the resolutions we make are admissions of self-disparagement – that we’re not yet a good enough person the way we are now. We are all way, way too hard on ourselves every day of the year already, so why do we feel the need to assess our self-worth and prove our selves to others at the end of every year? We promise that next year we will get thinner, happier, read a book per week. But these wishes are often a result of over-comparing to others and leads to thinking we are inadequate, that we need to be improved.
You are a perfectly perfect version of yourself. If you – and I mean you, not the version of yourself when you compare yourself to your best friend – are not as happy as you feel you could be, or if your body or mind is telling you that it might be time to make some positive, healthy changes, then this is where positive change will come from.
This is not to say New Year’s Resolutions are bad or should be avoided. Some resolutions I understand and even silently make myself; “Do more things you love”, “Explore”, “Listen and be more open”, “Don’t be so hard on yourself, you don’t have to do it all”. But these are the things I try to remind myself on any day of the year – the desire to make positive changes doesn’t need to occur on one day in all of the 365 days of the year.
Most important of all, know that you are great humans. Be good and kind to yourself. If you make resolutions, be sure they come from a place of self-love, not hate.
All seriousness aside, I wish you all a Happy New Year and that the year to come brings you joy and laughter.
Much love, Juliette x